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For some guys it’s losing their virginity is a deal long done. For other’s first time sex is still both an obsession and a mystery. A guy’s first time is more about getting it done than anything else, but the wait can be somewhat torturous.
But it shouldn’t be an obsession, and thanks to articles like this, it shouldn’t be a mystery. Yes, nothing can beat the real deal, but you can get pointers to make the first experience actually come into fruition.
First, let's talk about common ages to lose your virginity. Truth be told, sex varies by culture, location and situation. Some may lose their virginity as early as 14, but most won’t until 16 or later. And a good number will retain their virginity into their college years. If you’re from a conservative culture, and immersed in it, it can be very difficult to even have premarital sex.
The question is this: if you are a virgin, is it by choice or is it because the situation has yet to arise? If you wish to stay a virgin, there is nothing wrong with your decision, and you shouldn’t allow social, peer and or media pressure to affect your convictions. But if you’re dying to score for the first time, then keep reading.
If you’re young, in say in high school, sex can be difficult to come by. Girls are often still very insecure about their sexuality and sex is a big emotional deal for them. Thus, the scarcity of available poon makes it that much more difficult. And with all they guys in their hormonal primes, the competition is fierce. House parties are often a place where it can go down, but your best bet in high school is to secure a girlfriend who will lead into sex later. A word of advice: having high beauty standards for a first girlfriend can prolong the wait. Often, the added confidence of knowing you have attained a certain level of sexual skills is better than parading a hot girlfriend around through the halls. Think about it like this: you may never get the hot girl without the sexual confidence gained by first having gone through a less attractive one. You must learn to crawl before you can walk.
Now, if you are in your twenties, and you haven’t lost your virginity (and you want to) you have two options: 1) try to play it off as if you have had sex and try to work yourself into a situation where it could happen. Or 2) tell some girl you’ve been dating that you had been holding back for religious/ideological reasons, but that you’ve changed your way of thought recently and want to enjoy the beauty of it sooner rather than later.
Either way, acting desperate is the WORST thing you can do, at ANY age. If you act like you need sex badly, if you exude the horniness that runs through your veins, women will smell it, and they will not give in. They want a challenge, and a desperate guy definitely doesn’t provide it. So, best bet is to act like you don’t need sex, like you don’t need her. Make her think she’s actually hornier than you and that your mind is often somewhere else. This doesn’t mean you should act asexual, but just asexual towards her. Your manhood is intact, it’s there, only that she doesn’t visibly spark your flame to the point where she sees you drooling for her.
Trying to force the situation is thus the worst way to make it happen. Put yourself in the situation, but don’t push it. Get a girlfriend, go to bars or parties where easier, casual sex abounds, take a salsa, yoga or Pilates class where the girl to guy ratio will be insane.
All in all, and as hard as it is, put yourself in favorable situations without emitting desperation. Not everyone has all the sex you think they’re having when you’re not getting lucky. Half (if not more) of all the sex being had is all talk and lies guys love to dish out to sustain fragile egos. But if you keep this in mind and keep your cool, while leveraging favorable situations, sex will eventually come, and hopefully then you will too.
