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There are three types of situations you can find yourself in on Valentine’s Day.
1) You’re in a relationship
2) You’re dating or talking to a chick
3) You like a broad, but you don’t know if she likes you back.
Each situation requires a different approach.
For the brother in the relationship you must realize how key a date this is. Yes, it is a Hallmark holiday, made to blackmail men into giving up money for an idea conivingly implanted in female society. But the threat is still there and we have to face it.
Getting a gift isn’t enough. The chick will want you to show you care. And that means that she has to feel like you devoted hours of your life thinking about what to get her and just as many more hours getting it. She wants to feel special by having you sacrifice your time and money.
If you have to choose, go for the thoughtful approach, rather than buying some flashy present. If you have no money, it’s not your fault and if she cares, she’s a bitch. But she can always attack you on the grounds that you were “thoughtless”.
A framed picture of you two.
A stroll through the zoo.
A candle-lit picnic with a couple glasses of wine and a rose.
All good ideas.
Better than the typical teddy bear, roses or box of chocolates - all played out and thoughtless by most standards.
The good thing is that those things are expensive. The creative alternatives often are not.
They just require time, and that’s what they want. And If you’re real smart, you’ll do or get her something that looks like it required hours of thought, but really only took you 10 minutes.
Either way, try to cap it off with some sort of romantic dinner - even if you must opt for the late night picnic in a park or wherever you can devise.
First time Valentine is most important, especially with the dinner plans.
Moving on to situation #2 - you’re initially dating and or talking to a chick.
This is either the opportunity to seal the deal, blow it or scare her away.
It is your obligation to realize where you stand with the girl. I mean how much does she dig you. Where does her love thermometer stand? The best indicator is the phone. If she calls you more or just as much as you call her, then you have the chance to do something that can get her panties dropping real quick. Something smooth and sexy like a bottle of wine on the beach or perched over a balcony overlooking the city. Anything like that will be hella-smooth.
But if you’ve been chasing her more than she has you DON’T
make the mistake of being too cute or elaborate. Let her feel she’s
not as important as she thought she was. It’ll hit her with a dose
of reality, get her to maybe chase you in return, and save you money poorly
spent.
But remember, if you’re already fairly on the way to a future relationship
(i.e. their is mutual attraction and liking well established) don’t
take this route.
And lastly, we have the third situation: you like a girl, and that’s all there is to it.
You don’t have any real indication that she likes you back, or she’s sent some mixed signals, but nothing concrete.
In this case, DO NOT be the idiot sending her flowers and cards. It won’t get you anywhere…just because it’s Valentine’s doesn’t mean that a romantic gesture from a guy she doesn’t have in consideration will suddenly open any doors. It will just show her some guy is dying over her, and allow her to put another notch in her ego-wall.
You’ve been warned. If you decide to try it, let me know what happens - my bet is she’ll end up sucking the dick of the dude that never gave her anything for Valentine’s.
And if you’re just stuck at home with no Valentine’s, don’t feel like shit! It’s all a commercial ploy to scam those who react to the guilt, or illusion of hope presented by the day. (Not to mention the poor suckers in a relationship, forced to conform to avoid a horrible fight with the GF). Remember, most people are SINGLE on Valentine’s, so you are far from being alone. Go out with your boys if you can; if you run into any chicks, you’ll know they’re single and emotionally vulnerable thanks to yes…being feeling unloved on Valentine’s Day. Gotta work out in our favor sometime, right?
